“Partnership rather than ownership”
Women like me heard our neighbors telling their wives that they had to have sex because they paid for dowry.
Women like me decided never to be sold like goats by one man to another.
Women like us recognized that dowry was a sweet form of patriarchy and a bitter realization that we were property who belonged to men.
Women like me realized that being called by a man’s name, either my father or my husband was a larger reflection of my relationship with men, I was their property, to be owned by my father until my husband owned me.
Women like me, felt this questioning voice and decided if ever we were to be married, it would be a partnership rather than ownership.