I just finished this month’s period, just at the end of the month, and boo! I am feeling all glorious and ready for this next cycle.
My face glows like the moon on a full moon night.
My breasts stand firm like the cherengani hills.
My hips remind me of the hills of Koru.
My buttocks, soft like cotton, with contours like tributaries flowing from the mountains.
I feel juicy as ripe cherry-orange tomato sprouting in the hot and wet lands of Mwea Tebere.
I have never enjoyed being a woman this much.Divine Femininity…
It was in May early this year when I interviewed Ebby Weyime of The Grace Cup on Gemini Spice Magazine Instagram about The Menstrual Cup. Up to then, I had never used the cup and I was curious about it as many of our readers and audience were.
Ebby was gracious enough to give us the breakdown of the menstrual cup. She told me how the cup was life-changing for her, so much she founded the Grace Cup, a company that deals with menstrual health and sells the cup.
Three months ago, I saved up 2k (Damn, that was something) and purchased my Grace Cup and baby! I think this is the best decision of my life so far!
This is the third time I have used the menstrual Cup and all I have to tell my dear sisters out here, girl, save that money and get your cup, oh shit, get your freedom!
First Time I knew There Were Things Like Pads: This Fucking Period Shame
Lemme take you back to the first time I knew there was a difference between young girls and mature girls.
I was living with my auntie when I was in class two and believe me, I had never heard or even thought about periods. Damn, I didn’t know there was a time holy blood would flow from my womb back to the great mother. Call that libation.
My cousins, were all grown girls, most of them were in high school and we didn’t talk much. I always craved a relationship with them but they always kept a distance between us.
One time I walked into their conversation; they had come from shopping. When I got close to them, I saw some Always Pads and I was curious. When they realized I had seen them, one of my cousins hid the pads away.
The other day Muthoni asked me about the first time I felt ashamed of my periods or the first time I thought of periods as shameful and I just realized that this was it; when I felt periods and pads were something to hide from people.
And this is the fucking shame an older generation of women places on young women so much they hate their periods. But Ebby told me;
“Women do not hate their periods; it is the menstrual instrument!” said Ebby.
From Pads, to Tampons to The Cup
Like most girls from Kenya, I began using sanitary towels the moment I began my period. That was when I was 13 years. In my class, I was considered a late bloomer.
I used pads for so many years till my best friend in campus, a girl who we had gone to high school together, Karo Koskei told me about tampons.
Before this, I had only heard about them, that you could swim while on your period, and I found that, revolutionary. Since time immemorial, women have been stopped from living our lives to the fullest when we are on our periods. You know, “don’t get close to the synagogues, don’t swim, don’t go near people, stay in the forest,” and all that fucking shit!
I was apprehensive the first time, like anyone would be trying out anything for the first time, “will it get in there?” I asked. “Come on, dicks can go into your vagina, but something as small as a tampon can’t?” Made sense so I tried it and loved it. I became a brand ambassador for Tampons.
However, when I was pregnant, sometimes some discharge would flow and my doctor advised to stay away from tampons- infections and all. After I gave birth, I stuck to pads because there was lots of blood flowing endlessly. Scared me for a while.
After that period of time, I found it difficult to go back to pads. Every time I used tampons; I would get UTIs which are a fucking bitch! I quit tampons.
And now, I have migrated to the Cup and bAAAby! I love her. You wanna know why?
“Women do not hate their periods; it is the menstrual instrument!” said Ebby.
The Menstrual Cup Is the Revolution: Periods with Dignity
- I forget I am on my period!
You know how when you are using pads and there’s this nagging pad pinned to your vagina 24/7 that makes you feel like a freak?
A wet pad stuck to your vagina that won’t go till you period ends? Of course, you can’t keep changing it after every hour so its dry all the time.
Sometimes you feel like its moved to the side?
Well forget about that with the cup, the only time I remember I am on my period is when I remember I have to check if the cup is full.
- Total Hygiene!
I value feeling my vagina holistically. I love wiping my vagina now and then and just being free and clean. The no underwear also helps a lot!
With the pad, its difficult to feel this way.
Now, with the cup, God climbs down to earth herself!
You know the cup collects your blood at the opening of your uterus… so your vagina is totally fucking clean.
Like seriously! You put your fingers inside your vagina and there is no blood. At all!
- Interacting Wichua Vagina
How many of you ladies understand the anatomy of your vagina?
One day, a lady told me you can’t wear a tampon coz you will stop your pee from flowing. And I asked her; “do you understand where your pee comes from?”
There are so many women out there who do not understand the anatomy of the female body.
For example, do you know where your clitoris is? Do you know the difference between your clitoris and urethra? Your vagina and clitoris?
I know… You are thinking; 2k Wambui? How the fuck is 2k affordable?
Well, think this way, this cup is 2k and you can use it (according to the Grace Cup) for 10 years.
Now, a pad is 50-100/- right?
If you multiply 100 by 12 months it’s 1200. By 1200 by 10 years; That’s 12,000. If you consider you will be spending 10 times more than the menstrual cup; isn’t it more prudent to invest in the menstrual cup? Even if it was just 3-5-year durability?
Doesn’t it also make sense to invest in the cup for girls who cannot afford pads every month and have to sleep with men so they can get them. One true investment that will last for a long time.
And once you have the cup; you always have it; you don’t have to go looking for pads when your periods come in; you just need to pick up; and fold it in! Talk about convenience!
- Environmentally Friendly
We got to protect the great mother. It’s part of living up to the divine feminine you know. The world is moving towards sustainability and what better way to protect our home than to stop throwing pads to the earth?
- Divine Femininity
Being a woman means being truly invested in yourself. Understanding your essence as a woman and being unapologetic about being a woman. Being you truly. Without allowing anyone (Men, if I am not being clear) to dictate how you do you. Just loving being the true divine feminine and enjoying being a woman.
One of the most important ways of achieving the divine feminine is using the menstrual cup and just enjoying being a woman!
So, switch to the menstrual cup!
- Using the Menstrual Cup
Using the cup is not easy at first; the first two times I used it; I had a mixture of getting it and missing it every time I tried it. But with time and patience; I am learning to understand the cup and how my body works with her.
I really want to know the cons of the cup; because I have only used it thrice and it’s paradise. Could there be some cons that I will find later? That, I will tell you when I experience it!
But for technicality stuff; watch the video on Instagram that Ebby and I did so she can show you how to use the Menstrual Cup.
There will be a nudge to give up on it the first time you try it and it doesn’t work out; don’t’ give up; it will work out and once it has; you will be dancing, dripping, and living to your true feminine divinity.
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