The primary responsibility of the aunt was to confirm that the groom is potent and that the bride has defended her virginity before the marriage is consummated.
As a potency test for the groom, the aunt was sometimes required to have sex with the groom for confirmation of his potency and virility. She also had to “test” if the bride is still a virgin before they are allowed to consummate their marriage.
In other traditions, the aunt is said to go as far as listening in or watching as the bride and groom have sex in order to prove the couple’s potency.
In an era where these traditional concepts of virginity are becoming obsolete due to their continued oppression on women, it shows how the people of Banyankole, particularly the Bahima tribe hold virginity in high esteem.
As soon as a Banyankole girl is eight, she goes through a lot of restrictions to prepare her for marriage.
When other children her age in other cultures are out having fun and playing, a girl in this part of Uganda is mostly kept indoors, where she is fed beef and millet porridge and forced to drink milk in large quantities so that she becomes fat.
Being fat is synonymous with beauty among the Banyankoles. When she starts developing breasts, she is also asked by her parents to abstain from sexual activities.
It is the duty of a Banyankole father to find a wife for his son as he pays the bridewealth as well.
This consists of some cows, goats and pots of beer, depending on how rich a person is. Once the bride price is paid, the marriage preparations begin.
On the wedding day, there is a lot of feasting at the bride’s home, where the father is expected to slaughter a bull. At the bridegroom’s home, there is another feast where the marriage is consummated.
This is after the bride’s aunt has “tested” her niece’s purity and slept with the groom to also check his potency. : Airbender.